xjwsforChrist

Good morning ZOE,

I am not fully aware of the family situation. You had mentioned you thought his children view you as a home wrecker. You may never be able to change their viewpoint of this even if they think the marriage prior was not so great.
And you did mention that John is still married. So it is a awkward situation to begin with and that may be only part of it. I don't know the rest of this.
I realize it hurts you that they do not accept you. But honestly, their unacceptance of YOU may be stemming from John as well as he wants you no part of HIS family.
Either he has a problem as well, or he might just be looking out for your best interests and not wanting to cause you even more pain.

I am not sure how unhappy you are with this whole family,relationship, partner arrangement. I'm not trying to be insensitive ZOE, truly, I am sorry!
But despite what you have shared with us in the past about John and what he just recently did as to your money savings, if he lacks respect for you for whatever reasons, his children are going to feel the same way.
But as always, we must first look at ourselves and see what we ourselves bring to the table. In anyway have we contributed to anything that has caused this reaction?
If we honestly feel our conscience is clean and we are truly still not happy....
Then it is up to us to either " make the change" or learn now to accept the situation that it has become.
Because whatever it is, it is still a choice we make and made one way or another.

At least you have your children and grandchildren even if you don't get to see them very often.
And I don't know the situation around this as well. Do they live too far away to visit more often?


Love and peace to you ZOE,
Justmom

Hey Justmom and Zoe:

JM I'm thinking the same exact thing as you but held back from posting since you (Zoe) don't know me as well.

Well thank you JustMom, you gave me a lot of things to think about. It is hard to see things yourself sometimes at least it is for me.

I will put my thoughts over on my thread for privacy.

Zoe. You are so welcome. I am happy if anything was able to help. We all have our stuff Zoe. Never feel like we don't deal with ourselves on this end even though we all only know each other from afar!

I am learning a lot about the understanding of "choices" and how that word "karma" or " reaping what we sow" has played out in my life. I am continually disciplined but always LOVED by our Lord and Father!

Enjoy your week
Love justmom

Good morning to you Zoe and everyone else as well!!!

Happy Saturday and enjoy your weekend!
Love justmom

Good morning, everyone, and I'm glad you are all here.

Just checking in...

Things aren't going well...the behaviour policy at the school doesn't work...more than once I've found myself and my students in very unsafe situations...this has been compounded for me by being away from home. This weekend I'm making tough decisions. The school are urging me to stay, but, lovely as flattery is, I have to stay true to myself...and face the reality of the situation.

Love to all

Loz x

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"This is my son. LISTEN to Him!"

Loz, I am sorry that your new job isn't working out. What a big disappointment for you but it is certainly better to be safe and happy than stay. Life is to short to be unhappy.

So sorry Loz. Strength to everyone undergoing tribulation.

(Smile) Yes, dear, dear Loz (peace to you, luv!): our Adversary does know how to dangle a good "carrot" every once in awhile... and we sometimes are SO blinded by "hunger" (for acceptance, recognition, etc.) that we can't see who's holding the other end of the stick! I've been there and thankfully, like you, recognized very quickly that, uh-oh, no, this is not TRUTH, because it is not allowing ME to be TRUE (to myself OR JAH/Christ).

I have NO doubt that you WILL land the job you're SUPPOSED to have, WHERE you're supposed to have it. No doubt at all. And when you do, you will see how much different from this current one it truly is, that this current one was only an ILLUSION of being truth... because you were seeing with "eyes" of hunger, which caused you to see what you HOPED to see... and not what truly is.

I will not say that I am sorry it didn't work out, because if it is NOT where you should be, then I am VERY glad it didn't... so that you can move on to where you are SUPPOSED to be. Which place/situation will bring you great JOY, not sadness and anxiety.

Peace to you... and may JAH lead you, through Christ, to where you are SUPPOSED to be, and soon! In the meantime, "keep seeking the kingdom and HIS righteousness... and all other things will be added to you!"

YSSFS of Christ,

Shellamar

Dear Loz,

I am sorry for the stress that this has caused you. But you have found out some very valuable lessons and the best thing is when we can learn from them. As mentioned, the right situation for you will come.
Glad your here!

Love Justmom

Sorry that the job to which you were so much looking forward has not worked out so well for you, Loz.

Is it a city comprehensive? That's a very tough environment.

I am also sure that you will find the right job or place or assignment, Loz.

Really, I cannot add to what Shelby has said. I agree with every word, and oh yes, flattery can be a GREAT snare, keeping us in something that we know we should leave (like a bible study with the wts, lol).


Peace,
tammy