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Well, I've said I want a full Requiem Mass, choir, incense, the works.

But not just yet, thank you very much!

And may your wishes be carried out "just so," dear Char!

Please: don't ANYONE think THEIR wishes must be along the lines of mine! Never may that happen! Each one must decide for himself/herself. Nothing wrong with sharing one's... ummmmm... plans, IMHO, as perhaps others ARE thinking about what they might "want" to do... and why. But the end result should be what the one wants, not what others want.

Nohmsayin'? (And have you all noticed I've been saying "nohmsayin'" a lot today? My form of OCD, which changes from day to day - LOLOLOL!)

Peace!

A slave of Christ,

Shellamar

By law?

What law?

You have to have vaults?



Really?

Is that enough questions on this topic do you think, lol?



Peace,
tammy

Prolly not like the vaults you're thinkin' of, dear tec (peace, chica!). You know, those tomb/mausoleum little building thing-ies? No. Here, your grave must be lined with a concrete box... or "vault". To keep things from "floating up" in time of flood, or animals/people digging up, etc. It's da law!

Peace and hope that clarifies!

YSSFS of Christ,

Shellamar

I had an Aunt that had here whole funeral planned ahead of time, everything from beginning to end.
She had chosen all the music and songs from the beginning to the end. She even heard and approved the final draft of her eulogy while on her deathbed. She chose the scriptures she wanted read and the restaurant where everyone would eat afterwards. It turned out to be a great funeral. One of the reasons I believe she did this (aside from making things as easy on her only son as possible) because all of her brothers and sisters were Jehovah's Witnesses. She did not want them to turn it into a JW funeral like they did to their mother.
Way to go Shell. I should have started saving for this years ago.

Peace to you all

FinalCall

Morning to all!
A red sunrise here with the clouds forming an amazing artwork. Unbelievable beauty!

Ooh I posted a reply to everyone here last night, but it seems to have disappeared! Anyway, thank you all for your input.

Loz x

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"This is my son. LISTEN to Him!"

OH all this talk about planning funerals has me feeling a bit depressed. I have a BIG milestone birthday tomorrow and for some reason I keep bursting out in tears every time I think about turning 65.
I haven't planned a funeral at all other than I want to be buried not cremated.

I often think the day is near for me to depart as I feel so horrible all the time but I can't face planning anything. Here in Canada the government pays a certain amount toward funeral expenses. In my parents and my husbands case it was $1500.

I planned all 3 of their funerals according to what their wishes were that I knew of, the expenses were crazy and yet you go with emotions sometimes especially if its a sudden death so planning ahead is a good idea. In the case of my Dad my Mom told me what she wanted for him and I did the arranging. My Mom had a will that said she wanted to be cremated and she already had bought the spaces for my Dad and her to have their ashes buried in. My Mom and Dad's funeral and burial were about $5500 and that was bare minimum.

As for my husband, I spent over $10,000.00 for his funeral and that was just ridiculous but it was a sudden accidental death and I was overly emotional and in shock and let the funeral director influence me. I could have done without the fancy casket which was burned anyway as he was cremated and I could have done without the big funeral service. I also bought a very beautiful urn for his ashes and then had to pay $3000 more for a place to store them. My husband (died 11 years ago) always talked about dying but had no will but he made me promise he would be cremated and that I have a big service and have a party and he told me he wanted the song by Frank Sinatra "I did it my way" played at the service. So I did all that except for the party (I was too extremely sad) but to me it was such a waste of money with some of the stuff. The funeral parlour guys were happy though

Good morning!

My son turned fifteen yesterday.

I have mixed feelings about this.

D: and :, )


But mostly the :, )

It is pretty awesome watching him as he grows into the man he is going to become.

Peace!

tammy

Zoe, that is so insane, isn't it? About the prices of funerals? Unreal. I mean, we haven't even spent that kind of money on a vacation while ALIVE, lol.

I know you are not liking this particular b-day, Zoe... but don't more options open up to you for assistance, at 65? CPP also right?

So that some of your stresses can be lifted, even if just financially?

Good morning everyone....

Tec....*15* huh?

The fun has just begun, LOL! It is rather cool to watch our children grow up and develop their own independence. I have very stubborn sons, ( don't know where they get it from ) but your constant love and support will go very far as a mom. Your role as a " mommy" will change and be just " mom" or just " a friend". But boys love their moms ALWAYS!
I'm confident you'll do just fine with them. Jah hears and answers our prayers for them!

Zoe, the big "65"! I read yesterday the average person starts preparing the details of their death anywhere from 50-72. So I think your still in the average LOL . But it's always good to be clear as to certain things that are of utmost importance to YOU and the rest will fall into place.

Enjoy your day,
Love Justmom

I am truly sorry if my comments increased your bad feelings, dear Zoe (peace, luv!)... but your comments indicate you realize that perhaps it's a good thing to think of/plan as to these things ahead of time, given the potential expense? I was 18 when my mom passed away... at age 42. So, once someone has kids/a spouse, I don't really know how early is "too early," you know? Prudent people take insurance, etc., when their children are born (for college, etc.). Watchtower people... well, most never have enough when the time comes, do they, because of the WTBTS' BS melarkey about planning ahead, the new system coming "soon," etc.

I asked about this, planning... because my main concern was having MY wishes carried out as well as not putting my loved ones through the anxiety and expense (and of COURSE funeral directors take advantage of the weakened emotional state of surviving loved ones!). My understanding is that love would prompt me to make sure my loved ones didn't have to deal with more than they should... and so I was reminded of my Lord... and that the tomb HE was buried in had been prepared for ahead of time. True, it wasn't HIS, but where would they have laid him had Joseph of Arimethea not had his own tomb purchased and ready? That he did wasn't by chance; NOTHING in relation to Christ was by chance, hence, even his burial was prophesied (Isaiah 53:9).

My own children don't like to hear me talk about this... but I make them listen, when I need them to. Because, well... who knows? I personally have no INTENTION of dying ("Come, Lord JAHESHUA!", right??)... but it's not MY will but JAH's that will be done. So, just in CASE... I'm ready. And my loved ones won't need to be distracted with petty "details" if/when the time comes but can maybe focus on what I meant to them WHILE I WAS ALIVE.

That's what I would do, if I had to do it all over again as to my mom and dad. Celebrate their LIVES, I think... more than making a huge deal over their deaths.

Because to ME... they're still among the "living." At least, that's the promise I received: as with Rahab, it's for me AND my entire household.

I hope this helps!

Again, peace to you!

Your servant and a slave of Christ,

Shellamar

Please tell the new C-"man" HAPPY HIS DAY, for us, dear tec! And I had a BLAST with my kids at that age. I often miss it, but appreciate the adults they've become, too, so...

Peace to you, both!

YSSFS of Christ,

Shellamar

One of the loveliest funerals I've ever been to left us all both laughing and crying. Lovely? Laughing? At a funeral? Well, yes, actually, and it had all been planned by the deceased.

He was a dear, dear old friend, godfather to one of my daughters, and had been headmaster of the local school. He was also a retired naval officer, a huge man in every sense, and one of the most generous people you could ever meet. When he came through the front door the children would run to him, to be picked up high and enveloped in one of his "bear hugs"! Lol!

Anyway, his funeral gave a lovely account of all he had done in his life...even teaching mountaineering to the blind! Imagine that! But what left us all smiling and laughing through the tears was the very end. Instead of the coffin going out to solemn hymn music, which is the norm here, the town band came in! And escorted the coffin out of the church to their jolliest playing of "When the saints go marching in!" There wasn't a dry eye nor an unsmiling face anywhere, and that was what Jack had intended. I'll never forget it!

Just wanted to say GOOD morning to everyone today.

Hope your day is " swell"...

I am drinking coffee today which I never usually do. Trying to wake up, LOL!!!

Mornings are much cooler these days. Leaves are turning and falling. It is quite beautiful here.
But no rain yet and NEVER any snow. Yayyyyy!!!!

Enjoy your day
Love Justmom