AGUEST SAID
Christ didn't need to marry in the flesh, dear Q (peace to you!); in fact, he couldn't... else he would have been committing adultery. Because he was already promised in marriage to another, his Bride, New Jerusalem. Were he to take a wife in the flesh, he... by means of his flesh... would have been "anxious" as to HER needs... and thus the needs of the WORLD... and not those of God, His Father... or those of his Bride. To the neglect of both. Paul explains this pretty well, actually:
"The unmarried man is anxious for the things of the Lord, how he may gain the Lord’s approval. (For Christ, this would be gaining the Father's approval.) But the married man is anxious for the things of the world, how he may gain the approval of his wife, and he is divided. Further, the unmarried woman, and the virgin, is anxious for the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in her body and in her spirit. However, the married woman is anxious for the things of the world, how she may gain the approval of her [b]husband."
And his words were true then... and are today.
He also went on to write, though:
"But this I am saying for YOUR personal advantage, not that I may cast a noose upon YOU, but to move YOU to that which is becoming and that which means constant attendance upon the Lord without distraction."
So, he wasn't trying to bind them to rules or remove their freedom to BE married or act as married people, but cautioning them as to the distractions of marriage. And it CAN be difficult for the married person, because their loyalty is usually to their spouse FIRST... THEN God. It can be a very difficult balance, even when both spouses are believers.
And we can all be sure that most married men AND women experience this "conflict", and so BOTH might consider doing all they can NOT to contribute to one another's "anxiety" in this way. Both should be diligent to be aware of whether THEY are a source of conflict in this way for the other... and, if possible, work TOGETHER to overcome it.
But back to my Lord, it is not that his flesh didn't WANT to marry: his affection for Mary the Magdalene is the stuff of legends. As was his love for her brother, Lazarus. He WAS tested... in ALL respects... like us. But... UNLIKE us... HE did not give in to such temptations (hence, unlike us, HE did NOT sin - not that marriage is a sin - my point is that his ability to not give in caused him to not sin (in other ways)... as well as to not be distracted).
So, again, although he may have WANTED to marry, he knew that doing so would not only be a distraction... but "adultery" against the one to whom he was already promised, the seed of the Woman... that promise being made all the way back in the garden [of Eden]. From that time, he has maintained his anxiousness for HER "approval" (which "she" shows by coming TO him!). In turn, those who make up "her"... should endeavor to put their desire for HIS approval in the forefront.
I hope this helps and, again, peace to you!
Your servant and a slave of Christ,
SA
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