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Shelby thanks for asking and I don't mind at all. I am feeling better today even though nothing has changed. It just seemed worse yesterday for some reason.
I am glad to hear you are "feeling better", dear one (again, peace to you!), and I understand what you mean.
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My hubby is here everyday but most of the time he is sleeping and the dog and I have to be very quiet and no phone calls or people coming to the door allowed when he is sleeping. He gets angry if someone dares to knock on the door or make a noise outside when he is sleeping.
Have you dear folks considered investing in a good "professional grade" set of earplugs? Dear hubby is a snorer... and I can hear spiders move during broad daylight with a fire engine blaring by... so I would utterly lose my MIND without my set! I could NEVER sleep - LOLOLOL! Matter of fact, I need a new pair - my are getting worn and so I had to kick him down the guest room last night, poor thing!! So thank YOU for the VERY TIMELY reminder - LOLOLOL!
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This working nights and sleeping in the day is making me lonely and him sick.
Yes, I can understand that. I've done it, so I get that. Two ships passing...
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He worked 6 nights this past week and had only Saturday night to spend the night with me and sleep beside me.
Ah, yes, the "necessary evils" of life. They suck, don't they? Maybe we here can be of some help, at least as far as some association, given your situation. Also, some may have some suggestions to help you cope.
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So this has been the schedule the past 2 days - Saturday morning he arrived home at 7:30 AM, went to bed at 8:30 AM and I got up out of bed. He slept until 1 PM, then he spent 2 hours on the computer and 2 hours watching TV then we had supper at 5PM and he fell asleep in his chair so he went back to bed at 6PM and slept until 8 PM and then came and watched tv with me for a bit and then went to bed at 9:30 PM. He slept on and off all night, he wakes up often, got up at 9:30 AM Sunday morning, said he felt horrible and was still tired. Went back to bed at 11AM and slept until 3 PM. Spent 3 hours awake on the computer and then watching tv and went back to bed until 10 PM when he left for work.
Pardon my saying... and it's absolutely NONE of MY business... but perhaps you and he can schedule "something" to do TOGETHER during "computer" and/or "TV" time? I realize he may need to debrief, some, but sometimes we have to MAKE the effort to spend time with our loved one(s). Especially if our schedules don't automatically make such FOR us.
Now, of course, I don't know your relationship... or whether you feel... mmmmmmmm... "courageous" enough to say to him, "Look, this isn't work LIKE this - we need to change/rearrange some things." I AM that kind of girl, though. I let my husband know EXACTLY what I need... and when. Of course, it requires me doing so with great respect, kindness, and aplomb... and absolutely NO tears... but just a matter-of-fact, "Hey, look, 'Hon, here's the thing. I need you to/from you... and so it would really help ME out if... and I really appreciate you doing (such) for me."
I guess you could say it's a kind of manipulation, yes, but it's honest, upfront, and always honorable and respectful. I mean, a man HAS to ALWAYS feel like he's "king" of his "castle." I mean, I would, if I were a man. But that doesn't mean I have to act like his "serf," either. I much rather prefer acting like his "queen" - LOLOLOLOL! And queens have SOME power, right... that they don't have to use emotion to assert? If not, they should learn about that power... and how to use and wield it "properly" - LOLOLOL!
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He came home 7:30 this morning and went to bed at 8:30 AM and I got up. He is still sleeping and will be until about 2 PM. He has to take the dog to the vet at 3 PM, will come home have an hour to relax in front of the tv, have supper at 5 PM and then go back to bed until 9:30 and leave for work at 10 PM.
One thing that seems to be going on here: his sleep seems to be broken up. Is there a way to avoid that, I mean, on days where, say, there's no vet visits, etc.? One thing that can help (when he doesn't HAVE to get up)... is black out shades/curtains... as well as a eyeshade/mask. I personally CANNOT sleep one an OUNCE of light hits my eyes. I have NO problems with... oh, what it is, not melatonin... but the other. Starts with an "s", I think. Problems sleeping... when there's sound and light. NO problem being awake when such exist. So I HAVE to block all of that OUT. And guess what? I think my current needs are based on those days, back when my kids were little... when I worked nights!! LOLOLOL! I had to learn to "trick" by body and mind into "thinking" it was night!
You may have tried these things - if not, though, you dear folks might give them a try... for BOTH of your sanity and well-being! LOLOLOL! HE will rest better... and YOU will probably get more time from him when he's awake.
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This goes on endlessy and so I feel like I am alone. I am not complaining, it just gets to me sometimes. He is getting sick, there is something wrong as he is tired all the time and feels horrible all the time lately.
I do not get that you're complaining at all, but only voicing what's occurring with you. I totally get that. And he could be tired because he's not getting UNINTERRUPTED sleep, at least, not based on the schedule you've share.
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I think he is becoming diabetic but he won't go to the doctor. I am trying to get him on a diet for diabetics because he eats wrong. He insists on white bread and skipping meals etc.
Well, there is a way to either get him to go... or maybe get him to take better care of himself if he HAS diabetes, and that is to find out. Which you can easily do since I know you have access to the Internet.
1. Google "Blood glucose meter" and look for/buy a glucose meter.
2. Don't spend more than $25, at least not at this point. It will come with a couple/few strips, a finger tester, and lancets, so you don't need to buy those, just yet.
3. Check his blood glucose levels (the BEST time... is first thing in the morning. The most ACCURATE reading is first thing in the morning after having fasted at least 10 hours. Since he works nights, you might have to flip this. But I think the easiest thing would be to do it the morning of his day off. Just don't give him anything to eat or drink (except water) after 10pm the night before, then check it when he wakes up the next morning). If the reading is less than, say, 115... he's cool. If he's NOT diabetic (i.e., reading 115 or less)... it could just be the stress of his schedule and work. Keep in mind, though, severe stress can bring on Type 2 diabetes.
If it's between 116-139, he might be "pre-diabetic" and should see his doctor. If it's 140 or more... he needs to see his doctor - he's a diabetic.
I would offer that you do this, dear Zoe, if you can and he's willing... just to put YOUR mind... and his... at ease. I mean, at least you will know one way or the other... rather than letting what you THINK may be happening weigh on you. Because you might be worrying over "nothing" (note, just because one eats poorly doesn't make them a diabetic - MANY eat poorly... VERY poorly... and all their lives, but are not diabetics).
That does NOT mean he doesn't need to see his doctor. However, if you're having trouble getting him to that point, perhaps this can help you "motivate" him, if you need to. Diabetes is NOT something to play with, let ME assure you of that!
I hope some of this helps. Of course, take what you need and discard what you don't, even if that means ALL of it. And take care. Of you, too, as well as him!
Again, peace to you, dear one!
Your servant and a slave of Christ,
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