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Well, you just tell your dear John that one of your lady friends on here said... "FIND it, already, John!", dear Zoe (LOLOLOL and peace to you, dear lady!).

Maybe even tell him it was the black lady ('cause for some reason that seems to carry some weight with some folks... although the fact that I'm 5'2" and weigh about 110 might just negate that - LOLOLOL!).

MUCH strength to YOU, dear sister... and peace to you, BOTH... as much as you two can handle!

Your servant and a slave of Christ,

Shellama

Thank you Shelby John needs some little ladies like you in my life to keep him in line lol. He would never say a word to me and keep it together if anyone was around. He is very passive aggressive in a big way. I really think I would walk out and go find someplace else to live apart from him but I have absolutely no one to help me in the world so I just put up with this emotional and verbal abuse and he knows it. I can't even get in and out of the car without help so I am in pretty bad physical health and mobility.

Tomorrow this time we are moving the furniture, we are dismantling everything today, beds, desks etc and disconnecting the computers too. Things are going to be real disrupted for a few days, but with the movers around tomorrow he will be better behaved lol.

Oh, honey (dear Zoe, peace to you!). Sigh. So many are in situations that are challenging, if not outright tough. I've been there (with ex), so I can relate and my heart aches for you, all. All I can offer is that it DOES get better. May take some time, but it does.

The greatest of love and peace to you... and to dear John... as well as kindness, joy, and strength. Truly.

YOUR servant and a slave of Christ,

Shellama

Yes Zoe,

I am so sorry your situation is so distressing.
Maybe after the move, and you are settled in, this will help calm things enough for a minute. Maybe then you and hubby might be able to sit down and discuss in love what some of the real problems are and find peace.

Sounds like both of you are over tired and over exerted and need a mini vaca...

Love to you today
Justmom

*peeps head around door and wonders if it's safe to come in, after catching up on the rest of the forum*

Not long home from a lovely day out in the Lake District. Sending you hugs Zoe, we took a boat trip on lake Windermere and I thought of you, having the joy you have coming of living near your lake. I've been reminded of this for you dear Zoe:



Loz x

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"This is my son. LISTEN to Him!"

((((Zoe))))


Just a hug, and love your way. I know what you are going through... at least with John. As for the physical difficulties.... another hug! ((((Zoe))))


Peace and much love, and strength to you,

tammy

Thank you girls, your hugs and thoughts mean more than you can ever know.

He is much better right now, he has done a ton of stuff today and sees a light at the end of the tunnel. The movers take over in the morning YAY!

I went into a cabinet to take books and photo albums stuff out of it and somehow John had stuck a fancy glass bowl in there without telling me that had been on my coffee table. I didn't know it was there and pulled out some books and the bowl crashed to the floor and broke into a lot of sharp pieces. He got extremely angry that I dared do that and poor him had to come and clean it up. All I was doing was trying to help and it was MY STUFF. I had to take the heavy stuff out of the cabinet in order for the movers to lift the stuff. It just ruined my whole day, I felt so sick and useless and powerless and like I was 5 years old. Anyway, he apologized ane I am sure he will forget it all and think he was justified being like this because he is doing so much and I am not.

MORNIN' CHIKKENS!!!! Dreary here BUT... I (and dear hubby and kids and puppies and family and friends and loved ones and you all here) woke up yet another day!!! Praise JAH and WHOO-HOOOOOO!

Whatever your day might bring, may you be given a bit of joy, peace... and strength, if you need it, to get through it! Life can be short, dear ones, so seize EVERY moment you can... even if they are few... to REJOICE! Things could be better, yes, for ALL of us, in some way or another (I could come here and declare my love for and faith in JAH and Christ with absolutely NO controversy - uh-huh, yeah, right - LOLOLOLOL!)... and they could be worse... for ALL of us, in some way. We're TOUGH, though... resiliant... and can handle whatever life throws at us, yes? True, we may have to curl up in a ball and moan for a few days... but then that are days when we can just be glad to be alive. THIS is one of those days for ME... so I hope a little of MY joy can rub off on you, if you need some.

So... HERE YA GO (Shellama holds up both elbows, ready for rubbing)!

Peace... and ENJOY your day if you can, and if you can't... no worries, we all know how it is and so, again, MUCH strength to you!

YOUR servant and a slave of Christ,

Shellama

Morning everyone
The movers are here, half the house is emptied. I cannot believe how much stuff John has, The first hour was spent hauling out tool boxes, welders, gun cabinets, thank goodness the next place has 2 garages lol. They are just starting on the furniture now.

I am still working on the kitchen and just packed the dishes we use everyday, finally after more than a week of packing all the cupboards are empty, that's my area where I have too much stuff lol.
It is very hot and humid so I am moving very slowly.
John is being nice today, he loaded the van with all our computers and electronics and is now just directing the movers.

Our doggy is very upset, he knows sonething is not right here.

It's very true Shelby, some people didn't wake up today. Since we all did, we must be thankful for that indeed.

Glad the move in under way Zoe!

Loz x

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"This is my son. LISTEN to Him!"

GO, dear Zoe and John (peace to you, both)!! WOOT-WOOT!! GET that move on out of the way, girl, so's you too can get back to what's IMPORTANT in life: you... and not your stuff! LOLOLOL!

Hugs to poochie!

Shellama

Hope you're all moved in now Zoe?

Glorious day here, I've been in and out all day, sunbathing in the garden.

Loz x

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"This is my son. LISTEN to Him!"

I am moved in mostly. There is still stuff at the other house but I am getting John to pick that up for now. I am slowly unpacking here, it's going to take a month at least. We got our phone and satellite TV hooked up today. Internet will be tomorrow, I am using the expensive hub for traveling right now.

Things are not too good for me and us, John did something terrible and I am not sure if I can live with it or that we can recover. It's the straw that broke the camels back, he has done a lot of lying and sneaky deceptive things but this one takes the cake. I am totally devastated, sick about it and was in shock for the past 24 hours. Tammy knows what happened but I would rather not discuss it on open forum. And No, he did not cheat on me or gamble or do drugs. What he did is totally destroy my trust in him and it is unacceptable. He totally took away all my options of even a little bit of control over my life and trapped me.

The good news is that he is being extremely nice, patient and doing a lot of work without complaint. He knows what he did is BAD and so he is trying to make it up to me. It's a terrible vicious cycle and I am shocked with myself for getting into this horrible relationship.

Yikes, dear Zoe (the greatest of love and peace to you!). Just... yikes. And...

Peace... and may JAH bless!

Your servant and a slave of Christ,

Shellama

Zoe... As well!!!!!

I'm so sorry girl!

This move has been a lot on you both truly. I hope you can resolve this as loving as possible.
I'm sending you a BIG HUG!!!!

Love to you
Justmom