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lol at Loz. The documentary stuff sounds so exciting; I must have missed something somewhere. Zoe I hope your husbands spirits are lifted and you both feel better. I can be a dark cloud myself when stressed and then I feel guilty later for anyone having to be around me.

Justmom, thanks for the story; the reminders are good, but sometimes I wonder if people can really change or just learn to be more controlled in their actions and words. Can a heart really change? I mean for the better? I wonder.

Happy weekend everyone.

Good day and peace to you all! Glad all is going well with you and dear hubby's endeavors, dear Loz (peace to you!).

Dear, dear Zoe... the greatest of love and peace to you... and I can't add much to what others have already said, except, maybe, sometimes, one has to literally let a spouse, child, parent, sibling, friend, co-worker... KNOW... that they are not the "enemy." Because sometimes, when one feels as if they are fighting "against the world," EVERYONE looks like the "world" to them. Even those they love/admire.

I always told my kids that when I had to disagree with them and they took it badly. I also remember telling dear hubby that sometime during the first months when we were first dating. Things were pretty stressful in a number of areas of his life and he was used to a different response from others in dealing with such... and so had his guard up. I said something in an effort to be helpful and his response (I don't recall what it was) took me aback. I didn't understand it, really, as I knew I meant him no harm. And so I just said to him, "Look, luv, I'M not your enemy. I'm on YOUR side!" He stopped, looked at me, and very gently said, "You're right; you're not. I'm sorry." I have never had to "remind" him of that again.

Maybe your John needs to KNOW (which hearing it from you might help him to do) that YOU are not his enemy.

A man (and woman) needs to KNOW who his/her friends are. Sure, our actions CAN speak "louder" than our words... but sometimes the words help, too.

"Say what you need to say"... "in the living years..."

Peace... the way Christ gives it... to you ALL!

Your servant and a slave of Christ,

Shellama

Good afternoon..

Glad for you Tammy, this schedule may not be too stressful at least if you have to work.

Zoe, venting helps us girls at times even when we know our hubbies love us to death. Thanks for sharing. I am truly sorry that your pain level limits you so much. I will pray that Jah give you
His power beyond ours when you make your move so that it can be smooth.

Thanks Ataloa for your kindness with my sharing.

I would like to share something I received this morning which was a huge blessing to me.

My story I shared with you all on Wednesday as to a family member, a JW that the spirit reminded me that I needed to let go of some things in my heart that I had been holding on to....
Well....that family member is my father- in-law. I asked this morning what I could do to help ME work on this further. I heard my Lord say, " you could call him and tell him you love him!"

So....I did! Expecting the worse. Knowing that it does not matter what is in His heart, I have to be willing to let go of my issues regardless of whether he is kind or receives my call or not.
Now I can count on ONE hand how many conversations I've had with him in almost 16 years.

I told him that I just called to say " I loved him" ( HE even answered the phone and he usually hands it over to my mother- in- law) because usually its only about when I find out someone in the family dies.

Well, I also told him I appreciated over the years all the kindness he and his wife had shown to people inside and outside of the organization. I expected to be cut off like usual AND...

He said, Thank you! Asked where we were living now, how my boys were doing, and to say hi to my husband ( His son) !!!!
I almost burst into tears on the phone!!! Never had that kind of conversation since they shut us out 15 years ago. So, change of heart ?? .....dear Ataloa???.....maybe.
Was way more than I expected. So you never know. I was soooooo glad I had listened and called!

PRAISE JAH!!!!!

Just wanted to share this. It made my day,
Love Justmom




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You LISTENED, dear 'Mom (peace to you, my dear sister!)... BOTH to the counsel you said you received AND to what you could "do" when you asked... and look what resulted! Blessings from JAH, that is what makes RICH... and HE adds NO pain with it!"

Peace to you and your household... and I am MOST glad for you and dear, dear hubby!

YSSFS of Christ,

Shellama

Aw, justmom, so happy for you. I know I would have burst into tears had it been me. Gives me some hope for myself. Got to work on being a doer.

(((Justmom!!!)))

Sometimes we have such a hard time putting our faith in Christ... but He NEVER leads us wrong. I'm so glad you heard and DID, and for the joy that you have received from having done so!

Peace and love to you,
tammy

That's lovely to hear JustMom. I am so glad for you. "Love never fails" continues to ring true as we "heap fiery coals" on those the WTBS insists should be our enemies.

Loz x

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Oh JM that was a lovely what happened with your FIL, kindness and following the principles of love never fails (which is from Christ) does pay off a lot of the time. I don't listen to a voice of Christ as I don't hear one but I do quite often follow the love principles to a tee and it "works". I am assuming that your FIL is a JW, so you are applying and have used the principles of love and he hasn't. Lets hope that might just wake them up a bit.

For instance this thing with John right now and the past times too, I have often done exactly that (just say or show that I love him) and it usually works, he calms down or at least has no issue with me. Yes Shelby you are so right and thank you for reminding me of that. 2 years ago for about a year I didn't use the love thing with him and wanted to leave him as he was being a real JERK, I mean really nasty because of his anger issues etc.and he lied to me all the time and made up elaborate stories to cover up things. I am talking about things like he said he was divorced and he wasn't, he lied to me for 5 years and asked me to marry him so we could move in together, and other things that were important like finances and it really hurt me. We fought all the time and I was miserable, even called in a social worker as he was abusive emotionally and I was becoming very sick as a result. I just wanted him gone and was not being loving to him, I plotted against him to get him out of my life. It didn't work and so I resigned myself to be nice and accept and try and make it work and it did, we haven't had a fight in 2 years though he still can be a jerk (no lying anymore though) and still is angry he doesn't do it against me.

He resigned from the fire dept on Friday and was so upset and when he came home he said he wanted to go curl up in a corner and cry and I said I know Honey, I am so sorry it came to this, I feel so bad for you. He snarled back at me Yah right .. I looked at him shocked and said I do feel for you and he said you don't so I had to articulate in several ways why I felt bad. That was what he wanted. He usually doesn't want to talk about it and says so but this time I had to talk about it.
The storm is over for now with me and back on track.

I've sent you a PM Zoe.

Loz x

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Good morning everyone!


Today is me and the hubby's anniversary. (actually Friday was, but I was working) So today we are going to Edmontons best steakhouse (so we hear), and then we're going to see WORLD WAR Z!!!!

(sorry, but i am far more excited about the zombie movie, lol)

Zombies are a shared love of ours so I thought it was fitting that the movie came out on our anniversary weekend.


Peace!

tammy

Happy Anniversary Tammy, I hope you have a lovely day!

Loz x

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Happy Sunday...

Thank you everyone. It did make my whole weekend, yaaayyyy!

Happy anniversary Tammy and hubby. Have a great time. Hope the movie is good. I do wanna see this one.

Zoe, you are right. My FIL is a die hard JW. An extremely proud man he is. But I realize at this point no doctrinal issues will go very far. I think we almost gave him a heart attack lol when we showed up for memorial this year there at the congregation we were DFD from, as he knew we had moved 5 hours away and thought they had finally gotten rid of us for good.

But I do love him and my MIL very much as well. They have been through a lot and still hold on to that organization so tight. My heart aches for them. I can't be mad truly! They are old now and been in slavery for 56 years now. WOW! I must still pray for all of them!

I saw something on Facebook this morning that rang truth to me. It said,
" Being happy does not mean your life is perfect, it means you have decided to look beyond the imperfection."

Zoe you may not think you are hearing a voice, but everytime you allow love and kindness to conquer with your hubby....that is from the voice that is the one that IS LOVE!
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Enjoy your day everyone
Justmom

Happy Anniversary Tammy, enjoy the movie and dinner out.

Happy anniversary to you and dear hubby, dear tams (peace to you, both!). Enjoy those steaks... and you WILL enjoy "WWZ" (awesome!! I mean, it was GOOD! Well, IMHO, at least - LOLOL!).

Dear 'Mom, peace to you and yes, I learned long ago (as a child) that MY happiness is a CHOICE. Hence, as you know, I don't suffer schleprocks (people who's every other word is "Whoa is me!") well. I am ALL about MAKING my life as happy (and peaceful) as I can make it... and for that reason CHOOSE not to go down the "dark" roads some folks want to take others. SO true is the saying "Misery loves company!"

And most JWs are ABSOLUTELY miserable (which is why they treat others not "like" them so poorly; actually, many treat those LIKE them poorly, too, so...) - they've been waiting for "Armageddon" (and so vengeance upon their enemies, as well as occupancy of their neighbor's nice house - LOLOL!) forEVER (and think about what kind of heart one must have to WANT vengeance... rather than forgiveness!). That has GOT to make one a sourpuss, sooner or later; either from the "judgmental" thing from the moment one starts studying... to the fatigue in waiting for the "day of 'Jehovah'."

It has got to be like serving a life sentence when you were only sentenced to 15 with the promise of parole - there was the PROMISE but each year the WTBTS says, "Nope, you ain't gettin' out THIS year!" LOLOLOL! At SOME point it's GOT to make one want to say, "Well, okay, then, go on and electrocute me! Pull that switch; push that needle... 'cause I am TIRED of waiting!"

Dear, dear Zoe... the greatest of love and peace to you... and to dear John, dear one! Sounds like your dear John had some issues to work through... and is still working on some others. Thankfully, he has someone to stick it all out with him: you. May JAH give you BOTH the strength you need to push through all that is occurring and trying in your lives right now. And may He give you both sufficient love so that you DO see one another as friends FIRST, then spouses... and not enemies. All human relationships are trying so I hope your dear folks' current "trials" pass by quickly.

Peace, chikkens! All of you!

Your servant and a slave of Christ,

Shellama

Hello everyone as we start a new week. Sun is out here today, Wimbledon starting too, I could be a little distracted...

Loz x

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