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Thank you and good morning to everyone!

Hope everyone had a good weekend and hope Tammy had a blast at comic con. Pictures please!

Enjoy your day!
Love y'all Justmom

Good morning everyone....

Enjoy your day, I will gone for a couple days. Heading out of town for a funeral. A fear friend of mine has passed away and I am going to see her family and children.
Be back soon,

Love ya Justmom

I'm sorry your friend has died, JM. We will see you when you get back.

May you and your friend's family have comfort now in one another, and our Lord.

Peace and love to you,
tammy

Thank you Tammy,

Love to you Justmom

Sending you love and hugs JM.

Loz x

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"This is my son. LISTEN to Him!"

Take our love with you... for the kids, dear 'Mom (peace, luv!).

YSSFS of Christ,

Shellamar

Good morning ,

Home safe. It was a beautiful drive as the leaves of fall are changing in the mountains. It was 6-7 hour drive but it went by fast.
It was so sad to see all the family under these circumstances but I was extremely glad that I went.
I was able to see a few other people for a minute that I needed to give a hug and tell them I love them!

Funerals are always hard no matter who and how they pass. I am so looking forward to the day when death and all of its sting is completely done away with. But until then, our faith is in the one who gives life.
Life within ourselves NOW by belonging to Christ, and for eternity and to share this hope with ALL!

Have a great day everyone
Love Justmom

Yes, even if it's not your own family... and even if you were expecting it (for whatever reason), it can still be painful, dear 'Mom (peace to you!). I'm sure your friend's kids were grateful that you were there for them. Glad the drive was nice; maybe helped provide a bit of comfort for the task ahead.

Peace!

YSSFS of Christ,

Shellamar

Just wanted to say Good morning everyone!!!!

Happy Monday.
All is good. This training thing is brutal, LOL!! So much more to learn.

But it's good for me. Learning things in the city that I never knew in a small town.
( smiling at Shelby. She's been telling me this for years lol)

Enjoy your day everyone,
Love to you Justmom

We were at a funeral last Friday, a distant cousin of hubby's. The service was conducted by a clergyman who kept getting the deceased's name wrong which upset the family quite a bit...

Anyway, this and the current run of funerals affecting us here, got me thinking. I'm not meaning to be depressing at all, but I have realised how necessary it is to have some plans laid down for my own. For a start I wouldn't want any clergyman handling my burial service. Hubby suggests, with a wry smile, I write down my wishes, in case I 'go' first. This I've found, is proving quite difficult, opening up more questions than I'd realised.

Anyone got any practical tips?
(A cheerful Monday discussion, lol)
Loz x

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"This is my son. LISTEN to Him!"

Maybe write down what you would want said? (not about you... but words of peace or comfort or joy or love for your loved ones)

I don't even know how funerals work. I assume the funeral place is responsible for the actual burying... but perhaps anyone can speak or conduct a service? I see no reason why that has to be a clergy person.

So yeah... I haven't done any planning about it, lol...other than to casually mention that I want to be buried, rather than cremated.


Peace,
tammy

Mornin' dear, Loz, and peace to you! Okay, not trying to sound morbid OR depress anyone here... but ya'll know I'm pretty forthright, so...

Dear hubby and I have virtually paid for and/or planned out everything EXCEPT the "words" (we have our plots, stones, etc., and I just recently gave dear hubby info on caskets - Costco actually has them pretty reasonable... AND you can pay NOW but have them shipped in the future! 'cause I didn't want our children to have to even deal with it AND I wanted it to be done as and where WE wanted; when you leave the details to others, well, you never know... you know? I had to handle both of my parents services... and given what my dear cousin just went through, I don't wish the task on ANYONE, ESPECIALLY my children).

I personally don't want a service. I have attended a couple/few in my life and would rather my loved ones take whatever money they WOULD spend (on flowers, to be there, etc. - I don't anticipate them having to pay for anything else)... and either donate it to a charity organization... have a party... take a trip (Hawaii/Disneyland, whatever)... or something to CELEBRATE the life I DID live. I do NOT want to be "mourned"! I do NOT want my loved ones to feel pain because I no longer with them in the flesh.

Now, that's just me - dear Hubby wants an all out funeral service (and I'm the one who'll have to plan it, so you KNOW I have him taking care of everything he can NOW - LOLOLOL!)

As for the words, we just talked about that the other day! I can't remember what we came up with but it was quite humorous. Something like, "They were here; now, they're not" (well, not exactly that - LOLOLOL!). But I certainly want something pithy on my headstone (some famous person has "Pardon my dust", which I LOVE!).

Again, I realize that some feel uncomfortable discussing these matters but I tell you, they're MUCH easier to discuss... and handle... when the reason FOR them is not upon you. When it is, having to take care of these things only makes it worse to bear, IMHO. And often, MUCH more expensive (for those left behind, who sometimes have to go into debt to cover the costs; hence, so many are being cremated. No, won't go into THAT again - LOLOLOL!).

Anyway, I can't think of any particular words that I would want said at that time. For me, I think I would leave it open to any guests to speak, if they cared to. And if not, so be it - it would be the truth, if they had nothing to say. And I would prefer to go out that way: escorted by words of truth.

I hope this helps!

Again, peace to you!

YSSFS of Christ,

Shellamar

Gurl, you wanna be planted in a box from Costco? Hope it doesn't fall apart during the services!
I know it's terrible how much many folks spend just to put in the ground, but I guess as long as you and final home make it to burial place in "one piece" then it's all good !

LOLOLOL! Costco, Walmart... Thrifty's... heck, what do I care, dear Miz Shirl (peace, luv!)? It's goin' in the ground so no will see it afterward. And I won't see it during (and don't care about before). I mean, no, I don't want no one traumatized by the sight of me fallin' outta it, if it busts open before I'm buried. But that just means whoever's handlin'/carryin' the sucka better take care! LOLOL!

Look, girl, I'm cheap when I can be! And I just can't see puttin' thousands of dollars in the ground... instead of in my surviving husband's/kid's/grankids' pockets. Ain't like I'm leaving 'em a fortune otherwise, so if i have THAT kinda money I'd rather THEY get it than someone who makes they're money chargin' off the wall prices for a souped-up pine box that no ones ever gonna see again (not even the worms, cause we have vaults - you gotta, by law!).

And it ain't like I'm'a be in it forever... or need it again. LOLOL! Nohmsayin'? LOLOL!

So, yeah, girl... Costco! GREAT prices... and QUALITY, too! LOLOL!

Peace, luv... and sorry I missed you, this trip. Never made it outta Brooklyn (cept for JFK comin' in and La Guardia goin' out!)

Shel

Hello dear Loz,

I'm of the same mind as Shelby. I have only made it clear quite recently as to definite burial not cremation.
I really don't want a big deal either. No more money than necessary. Although my whole life as a JW I had plans on being cremated, and being raised with the end so close and never having to die, I did not make plans of any kind. And we have always opted out on life insurance for that very reason as a witness thinking why would I need it. I was told it was a lack of faith to have insurance, lol.

Not being realistic that even an unforeseen accident could happen at anytime.

And being self employed most of our lives, we didn't have a 401k or death policy.

So it has only been recently that we have been working on this.
I just had this conversation with my dad last week as to his wishes because I would be dealing with a JW elder brother who would want the cheapest, quickest route ( cremation) and my dad is against it.

For us personally, we are at the stage of just having life insurance enough to cover everything We need. Will work on the details further.

So, just simple, put me in the ground, and move on. I know its temporary.

Hope this helps you as well as the others have,
Love to you Justmom